Red Flags

There are times(Many times) where I have found myself thinking or saying to myself... boy he is so lazy, he is always so disorganized, never shows any interest in anything, he did it two days ago why not today! His way of doing homework is so unorganized and time consuming that it leaves us all frustrated, is he trying to make me angry? I told him I would punish him, why is he still not doing it?

Coming from this book Kids in the Syndrome Mix....by martin L. Kutsher MD, all could be red flags of a very real problem. Why would the child want to fail, get punished,or feel bad at any subject or thing.

This is quit a relief to hear because there are many days when I think all he is doing is trying to make me angry or defy the rules(Not to say that never happens). But the way that most of us deal with this before knowing there is a problem can be emotional torture to these children. Making them feel inadequate less than others. Because you treat them as if they know what they are doing and why. I am to blame and have expected and asked him to be more like kids his own age. Boy... that had to make him feel so terrible. I should have realized along time ago that something was not normal. For goodness sakes he never acted like a normal child his age!
But then again who wants to think something is wrong and label them with a disability?

As I read chapter 3 about ADHD, I realize there is so much more to it than a child that can't sit still or simply concentrate on a task. Just their complete way of thinking, rationalizing, organizing, sense of time, moving from one thing to the next, the way they remember, and how emotions play a part is just so complex and it is no wonder they get so frustrated. And there is more to it than that. You would think that with as complex as it is that it should not be soooo over diagnosed.
For those that do have a mix with ADHD it is a whole change in routine for them to cope at school with a whole lot of help from the teacher. Communication is the key. Try to always be one step ahead.This book gives you step by step ways to help them organize school work and complete difficult tasks or projects with many steps.

This will absolutely help us in the way we sit and do homework every night. No more or at least very few emotional breakdowns at homework time for us FROM NOW ON!